With just having had Easter and the start of spring new beginnings are everywhere to be seen. If you look outside you can see flowers emerging from the earth, leaves starting to reappear on branches and new little lambs running around the fields. It is impossible not to think about one’s own life and reflect on where it’s at, and there are areas that could do with a fresh start too. Of course we don’t need a new year, the start of spring, a new month or whatever to make a fresh start, every morning is a new day, an opportunity to start again but something about Spring does seem to bring thoughts of change to the forefront of the mind.
I know that we can’t change the past so take an opportunity to reflect objectively – if there are things that you can learn from or use for good then do that but then make sure that you leave the rest behind, carrying past mistakes, like the proverbial millstone around your neck can never bring happiness, ruminating and judging yourself is not helpful so time to leave the past where it belongs and move on, grasping the future with both hands. So, how do we do that? I think the best place to start is to consider your life, exactly as it is today – right now, what is good, what is not good, what is in need of change and what is perfect exactly as it is? Is my life heading in the direction that I want? Am I happy with the direction that my life appears to be travelling in? If my life remains just as it is in 10 years will I be content with that? What do I like about the status quo and what do I want to change? Do the good times outweigh the bad? Do I feel that I am living my destiny or am I following on someone else’s path? Are my needs and wants a priority or do they come second (or even further down the priority list) to that of others? What can I do to make sure that my needs are met but that the other people around me can also have their needs met and feel fulfilled? What does that life look like?
If I know how I want my future to look then how do I make sure that I can achieve that? I think that the best thing, for me, is to set small goals that will take me along that path, by setting small, incremental, time measured goals it makes it easier during the harder times to see that I am working towards something. I can say that I may not be happy with a particular situation but that I know that it is a short term situation in order to achieve something greater rather than feeling that this is it and that my life is not going to plan. In saying that, I do think it is important not to be so focused on achieving some future goal that we forget to enjoy the journey – as the saying goes “happiness is a way of life, not a destination”. As part of my new beginning I want to ensure that I recognise the little things in life that I am grateful for and to express my gratitude more often.
So, here’s to new beginnings, time to put the past behind us and move onto the future we deserve.